3 Popular Self Improvement Tips That Are Actually Ruining Your Life

May 22, 2022

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Reading is like dating. If I asked you to go on a terrible date for 10 hours, you would not want to be there till the end. So why do people put themselves through a terrible 10-hour book for the sake of it? You would leave that date early, so likewise, put that book down and move on.

Starting a reading habit in the last few years has been one of the best things I have ever done for myself. We often hear about all the positives we can gain out of reading but I had always brushed it off until recently.

I honestly believe there are books out there for everyone, it’s a whole new passageway of entertainment, education, and wisdom.

However, we are under the misconception that we need to ‘read more in order to reap the benefits, that’s far from true.

The truth is, you don’t necessarily have to read more, you have to read better.

Reading one book and gaining valuable lessons from it or allowing it to emotionally connect with you, is better than churning through books just for the sake of it.

Reading better means: picking books that you can genuinely enjoy and learn from — not just the same type of self-development stuff over and over again.

Don’t just read more — read better. — Jari Roomer

2. 'You Need to Grind In Your 20s To Relax In Your 30s' 🏝

Social media has definitely enhanced the whole ‘grind in your 20s’ mentality.

I don’t think you want to look back at your 20s and just remember working because by the time you have time to enjoy your hard work, the things you were working for won’t interest you anymore and it’ll be too late.

Not to be morbid or anything, but something we can agree on is that we’re all going to die one day. The majority of us don’t want to die without feeling satisfied with life and leave this world, not having our name mean something to the people of the future.

This means that sometimes we have to put aside the ‘grinding’ mentality in our 20s to go see the world and make a name for ourselves outside of fundamental success.

Regrets of the dying are often “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard and took the time to eat the fruits of my hard work” and it is rarely “I wish I had worked harder”.

“If you could walk around like that all the time, to have the awareness that its all going to end, that’s the trick” — George Saunders

3. 'You Need To Exit Your Comfort Zone' 🏟

Contrary to popular belief, Spending most of your time in your comfort zone isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

Of course, you can gain and learn so much from leaving your comfort zone by meeting people who can project you to where you want to be.

However, this doesn’t mean that ‘nothing good ever happens in the comfort zone,’.

If you’re able to do something that comes naturally to you — well, double down on it.

Doing something well, consistently, is what can change your life, and sometimes by leaving your comfort zone, you abandon something that you’re good at for something that can wait.

Have a great week!


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